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"I really hate sex"

Honestly speaking, I really hate sex. Let me preface this with I do enjoy it on occasion and it does feel good but in an overall general sense...I hate sex! I hate it because people make such a big deal about it. I feel like there is a lot of pressure from society about having sex or being sexual.

I don’t like that sex kind of rules the world. For example, I can see it everywhere in advertisements, movies, tv shows, etc. Even just listening to songs or watching music videos, many of them are full of sex. I hate it, especially when I am in a relationship with someone. Having to determine that fine line between am I having too little sex with my partner or shall I have more.

When I was younger, I would have told you something different. As I have grown, life has changed. Sex has changed and it has changed me. I am in my mid-thirties and I have ED issues. Maybe this has contributed to this overall feeling I have but it definitely has made getting hard, being hard rather...well...hard! It feels like a bit of my masculinity has been taking away due to this. I have seen doctors, gone to therapy and tried medicines for it, but nothing has seemed to allow me to be like my 16 year old self used to be, below the belt. It's a struggle now and probably will be for the rest of my life. What I mean is, in essence, I, as a man, am expected to perform in bed and making sure that my partner is happy and satisfied. There’s also the issue of compatibility in terms of our sexual fantasies, penis size, performance, etc. This issue is a big one for me.

The picture with this are things I have tried to allow myself to be the best sexual partner I can be, now all those things sit in a drawer. There are so many things in life that are much more important, and yet, sex is the most talked about topic out there. Don’t get me wrong, sex is very important, especially when I am trying to connect with someone emotionally and physically, but at the same time, I feel like it’s just too much, and it is all around me. It just feels like there needs to be a fine balance of sex, and everything else in this world and not have it be the most important topic out there, be it, from your partners lips, friends, co-workers, TV shows, movies, music, etc.

Sex is good and fine but it is not everything, and it especially should not run our lives!


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